Anonymous said: hi! I'm sorry, I don't know if it's you or your spouse (or both! or either?) who is willing to answer awkward sex questions, or if this is the wrong time to ask awkward sex questions, but----butt stuff? Anal, for girls? Is it good/worth it? I mean, forgive my lack of understanding, but I thought the prostate (which I thought was just something males of a species had?) was what made it pleasurable? is that something you and Stiffler do? (sorry if that is too awkward/personal/beendone to ask!)
I usually get the sex questions because Stiffler will be a little too graphic or harsh about certain things, and I’m always happy to answer.
For people who have vaginas, yes, butt stuff is definitely a thing. In our relationship, we honestly do more “butt stuff” than “vagina stuff.” And while it usually people with prostates that get a lot of enjoyment out of anal sex, people without them can experience equal (or, depending on who ask, even more) amounts of pleasure.
In fact, anal sex can stimulate a variety of fun body pleasure-zones in non-prostate-havers: there’s a ton of nerves, not only in the rectum, but also around/in the opening of your butt-butt; especially the pudendal nerve, which everybody has and makes a lot of different sex play feel pleasurable, including anal.
There’s also some vagina-havers who feel ‘g-spot’ stimulation only or especially during anal sex. And the anus is actually connected by nerve fibers and muscles to the clitoris (which science is just now starting to discover is actually much bigger internally) and contracts the same as the vagina during orgasm, so a little bit of play goes a long way.
Basically: vaginas are actually a lot less sensitive than anal walls, with fewer nerve endings, so for some people anal sex is much more pleasurable and for others it may be too sensitive.
As for recommending anal sex: I give it a definite Maybe! If you’re relaxed about it, prepare by going slow, using water-based lubes and having lots of foreplay (or even an orgasm or two) beforehand, then you’ll probably have a lot of fun.
Start by rimming and if you enjoy that, it’s probably a safe bet that you may enjoy a little more.
For Stiffler and I, we enjoy it in entirely different ways and at different points in our sex acts, we just had to work out exactly how and what those were — which is the same for any sex act, really. Anal sex just gets an unnecessarily harsh taboo, coupled with a lack of knowledge about the fact that it’s good, clean fun for anyone.
K, simultaneously educating while shitting on your childhood, all in one fell swoop.
This is why I married her.